Being a solo parent is a full time job with no sick leave. When illness hits, there’s no partner to tag in, no one to take over school runs, meal prep, or bedtime routines. It’s just me, doing my best with whatever energy I have left.
Recently, I found myself completely out of action body aching, fever running high, and unable to get out of bed. In those moments, the weight of solo parenting feels even heavier. But as much as the struggle is real, so is the gratitude.
The Challenges of Being Sick as a Solo Parent
When you’re the only adult in the house, everything falls on you, whether you’re well or not. The laundry doesn’t pause, hungry stomachs still need food, and kids still need to be taken to school, helped with homework, and put to bed. The mental load doesn’t get sick, even when the body does.
There’s also the guilt. That feeling of not being “present enough,” of not doing the things I normally would. The little voice in my head saying, you should push through. But I’ve learned that resting isn’t failing, it’s surviving.
The Blessing of Raising Independent Kids
One thing I am so thankful for is that I’ve taught my kids how to cook from the age of four. What started as a fun way to bond in the kitchen has turned into one of the biggest blessings during times like this.
While I was bedridden, my kids took care of themselves, and me. They made their own breakfasts, put together simple meals, and even brought me water and snacks without being asked. My little ones, who once needed help with every tiny task, were now moving through the house with a quiet confidence, making sure we all got through the day.
It wasn’t just about the food. It was about the reassurance that they can handle things, that I have equipped them with life skills that will serve them well beyond moments like this. That realization gave me so much peace.
They also helped with cleaning and laundry, things that many might assume kids can’t or won’t do. They picked up around the house, made sure dishes were washed, and even managed to put a load of laundry in the machine. I’d hear little conversations between them, figuring out what needed to be done, working as a team without me having to say a word. It made me so proud. I mean there was a few times they needed influencing on what to do next but I couldn’t be any prouder.
Lessons in Strength and Letting Go
Solo parenting while sick has reminded me of a few things:
- Independence is a gift – Teaching kids responsibility early isn’t just about making life easier in the short term; it’s about preparing them for life.
- Rest is necessary – The world doesn’t stop if I take a break. My kids are capable, and I don’t have to do everything.
- It’s okay to ask for help – Whether it’s from friends, neighbors, or even delivery apps, accepting help isn’t a weakness.
So while being sick as a solo parent is never easy, I’m grateful for the small wins, like seeing my children step up in ways I never imagined. It’s proof that even on the hardest days, we’re still growing, still learning, and still thriving.
To all my fellow solo parents out there, give yourself grace. Your strength is unmatched, and your kids are watching and learning more than you know.
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